HOW I CAN HELP YOU

This can look like…
In a marriage or partnership where there is physical cheating, emotional cheating, lack of intimacy and poor communication such as constant arguing, disagreements and conflicts. I also address other types of relational problems involving parent-child, siblings and friendships. When relationships are strained and your expectations and needs are not being met, it can cause a lot of distress, impact your quality of life and affect your mental health.

I will help you develop communication skills, conflict resolution skills, modify your expectations as needed, rebuild trust and set healthy boundaries, along with many other approaches and solutions.

Relationship Problems:

This can look like…
Having your feelings and experiences minimized and dismissed, a cold or detached parent, having harsh and hurtful things said to you, overly critical and judgmental parents and a lack of nurture and emotional support. There are many reasons why a parent can be emotionally neglectful such as they have a personality disorder like narcissism, a mental illness, cultural factors, low self-awareness and emotional immaturity. This can result in problems forming healthy adult relationships, insecure attachments, low self-esteem, mother and father wounds, confusion and lingering feelings of anger and loneliness. It was indeed your parents’ responsibility to meet your emotional needs. Your wounds can be healed, and you can begin to give yourself what you needed as a child.

I will help you learn how to reparent yourself, self-validate your emotions and
experiences, control how you react to your parents, externalize rather than internalize
and recognize traits of safe and unsafe people. This is all meant to help you avoid

disappointment, heal your heart, develop more positive relationships and move forward with your life.

Emotional Neglect from Parents in Childhood and Adulthood

This can look like…
Experiencing fear, nervousness, chronic worry and feeling on edge. Anxiety causes your nervous system to become overactive and go into fight or flight mode. It contributes to unhelpful ways of thinking such as “what if” thoughts and believing the worst-case scenario will happen. Anxiety, worry, panic attacks and phobias are words that we hear more and more in our society. It also plays a role in obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), social anxiety and health anxiety. You don’t have to be alone in your journey
navigating the battles that anxiety seeks to bring into your life.

I will help you get equipped with research backed tools, strategies and skills that will
reduce the intensity and frequency of your symptoms. I will help you learn to recognize unhelpful thinking patterns and cognitive distortions and help you reframe and challenge them.

Anxiety:

This can look like…
Persistent feelings of sadness, depression, numbness and empty mood. Depression saps your energy and makes it hard to do just about anything. It can make it hard to get out of bed in the morning. Feelings of guilt, hopelessness and not feeling good about yourself also are common with depression. I want you to know that depression is not your fault! Depression is multifaceted and has biological, psychological and environmental factors. You deserve to start feeling better and to get better at feeling.

I will help you explore what is causing and triggering your symptoms and create an
action plan to help you break free from the cycle of depression. I use techniques such as behavioral activation, mindfulness, improving social support and addressing your sleep, diet and exercise.

Depression:

This can look like…
Saying yes when you want to say no, finding it hard to be assertive, consistently putting other people’s needs above your own and feeling taken advantage of and resentful. Poor boundaries can cause you to abandon yourself and be a people pleaser. This can also look like codependency where you feel responsible for other people’s feelings and behaviors. It has been said that codependency is when concern turns into obsession and compassion turns into caretaking.

I will help you gain insight into why these patterns developed and how you can begin to change them. Poor boundaries and codependency are learned behaviors, so the good news is they can be unlearned. You deserve to prioritize yourself and have reciprocal relationships. I’ll help you learn how to develop boundaries and detach in a healthy way

from people and situations you are not responsible for and have no control over. It’s time to take your life back and start living each day with more freedom.

Boundaries:

This can look like…
Physical and mental exhaustion, feeling burned out and depleted, becoming more
cynical about your job, decreased motivation at work, dreading going into work, using more sick days and paid time off and compassion fatigue. Certain jobs have a higher risk of burnout such as first responders and healthcare professionals. Anyone can experience burnout, including mothers, caregivers and college students.

I will help you recover from burnout, and this will include cultivating a lifestyle of rest, improved work life balance and strategies to decrease your drainers and increase what recharges you.

Burnout and Workplace Stress:

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Having a hard time paying attention, trouble focusing and staying organized, easily distracted, difficulty following through on tasks and procrastination. ADHD can be frustrating and can impede your desire to function optimally in work, school and home settings.

I will help with specific strategies and skills to improve structure, organization and decrease distractions. I will teach techniques that help calm the mind and regulate emotions. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) for adults with ADHD emphasizes education and skill-building throughout treatment. Some of these will include time management, breaking down large tasks and identifying procrastination behaviors.

ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder):

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You will be recommended Christian resources, referrals to Christian programs and I can incorporate prayer and the bible into our sessions. This can also include exploring and processing things like spiritual abuse, church hurt and any struggles you are having in your walk with God. I have been a devoted Christian since I was a teenager, and I am passionate about my relationship with Jesus. I would be more than happy to provide faith-based counseling, upon request.

Christian/Faith Based Counseling: